Principal Consultant, Career OverDrive!
How hasn't heard this advice before?
"Fake it 'til you make it!"
And while this may appear to be sound advice, we'll briefly explain why it's a loser's mentality and how very dangerous it can be.
First, by using the word "fake it" we are engaging in negative internal talk.
Think about it.
Why would we "fake" something?
Second, if we are "faking" something, do we even care about what we are doing?
It suggests that we don't.
So rather than "fake it 'til we make it", what we really want to do in these circumstances is to identify an appropriate model for success and then work at it for as long as it takes until we are able to fully and completely internalize and integrate that particular success model.
The key is to deliberately choose your success model and to be as principled as possible while you work to fully and accurately internalize and integrate it.